Where is the charming, Sincere, door holding respectful, funny man who can make a Classy Woman feel safe and important? He is going the way of the dodo…and its all the Ladies Fault.
Not to long ago, with in the last 50 years, In this very world there use to be a time where a young gentleman would call upon a lady for dinner, walk, tea or anything that would give the male time to show his worth to the young lady. Now there is no time you get one date and being nervous is not an option. Where are the Ladies that are worth the Gentleman’s time?
“Where are all the good guys” is a common question that many of my female friends ask. I feel like saying “shut up you wouldn’t know what to do if a good guy landed on your head with a bouquet of flowers”. This is true the same woman who wants a good guy repeatedly will go for the guy who treats them like crap, this to me is funny because even they know the new guy is a carbon copy of the last one they still act surprised when the relationship turns out just like all the others.
Example I want to hang out with a girl and not have sex with her in the first 2-3 months I want to get to know her, because sex is not even 20 percent of a relationship all tho bad sex life will ruin a relationship on the other hand good sex wont keep the relationship going. So I want to court a woman and see what her personality is before I get freaky, these girls usually last about 2-4 weeks if sex hasn’t happened they basically become only a friend. Who the hell made up the rules all or nothing lets burn out everything so it’s a hot blazing fire that burns out quick. I want a blazing fire that will burn for more than a decade, and to achieve that you need to meet all my criteria.
Surprisingly enough being beautiful big breasted super model is not one of my criteria. Honesty, a sense of humor, selflessness, being healthy and treating your own body with respect, having a faith and a nurturing soul are some of them. These traits are all but extinct in the “Woman of Today”. And I am not talking about visuals either I am talking about true inner beauty that will out shine any other beauty the inner beauty will be what makes the relationship last not the perky tits or the six-pack. Tattoos Piercing fake blonde/black hair is all surface layer that only matters in the first couple months/years after that its the inner beauty, love and respect will keep you going.
What happens to a Faucet that never gets used? It starts to leak and not work right gets rusty and doesn’t want to give you good clean water when you want it. You need to use the faucet and show the faucet you need it for everyday life. same with a Gentleman if you don’t need a gentleman in your life 10/10 times you wont even see one. first of all you wont find a gentleman in some trashy disco humping a chicks leg to some new 50 cent song. you wont find a gentleman at a strip joint saying look at those tits. You will never hear a Man say “yo look at that Bitches ass” funny yes, respectful to a woman and her body? No not at all. Whether you agree or not with this little blurb of mine, respect is one of the foundations of a lasting relationship. If your looking for a Real man who will take care of you stop looking in the trash.
In fact you probably already know the gentleman you are needing in your life, he is the best guy friend who is always there for you, who will come to your house at 2am cause you feel like shit, he is the one who will take you to dinner and sit there and listen to your whining about the last boyfriend who cheated on you. He is the friend you would never let go. He is a gentleman. but for some reason you “the Woman” don’t want the whole package.
Most of the time you base what you want in a guy off of the reaction of your shallow friends who say ewwwwwwww what are you serious. Or based off of how many tattoos he has or how pretty his lips are. guaranteed the best friend would take care of you for the rest of your life making you happy. correct you need to be attracted to someone first because it is our eyes that see first.
And a gentleman will never have sex with you on the first night nor will he be a one night stand. A gentleman will not be a person who frequents the whore house. Being a gentleman means having some core values that are not in most people today. Honesty, Respect, selflessness, Faithfulness, trust.
I myself will keep looking for that Dare to be great woman who is a perfect match for me….and yes I will look and search because the right girl wont just appear when I am sitting at home. Mean while I will trim my Mustache and think of witty things to say in french or spanish and before I get slammed with letter telling me I am not fair I will say “there are Classy Ladies out there and those ones have more than likely found their Gentleman”